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today’s over-stimulated, fast-paced society, we have access
to a wealth of information; on almost any topic imaginable. We have
videos on YouTube.com, resources for how to ski, cook, play the
guitar or make a million dollars if that is your motivation. Get
on the Internet and prepare yourself to travel to infinity and beyond!
But, when it comes to solid how-to advice for your relationship
with the man you love — the information is either hard to
find or too general to be of any value.
Take me, for
example. I’m a single woman who also happens to be a personal
and business coach. I have been coaching both single and married
men and women for the past ten years. I have conducted endless research,
sifted through hundreds of case studies, read a ton of books and
learned a lot from the masters as well as my clients. It is the
culmination of all this and my own experiences that make up the
bones of this book.
The real motivation
for writing this book was to give women, in particular, additional
insight into how to achieve happiness in their relationships with
men, whether they are married or single. It has become apparent
to me that women really do have the power to determine the direction
of almost any relationship they are in, whether personal or professional.
My personal
goal, as a coach, is to help people get the results they want, which
they were unable to achieve on their own.
My coaching
services have also taken me around the world where I have had the
opportunity to speak with women of other cultures and beliefs. I
discovered that women worldwide are not so different, after all.
We all have wants, needs and desires. We all require respect, while
others also desire the companionship, commitment and marriage of
an honorable man.
When it comes
to coaching, I have to roles: (1) to help single women find their
“Dream King,” and (2) to help married women keep their
husbands and to feel fulfilled in their marriages. With this as
my focus, I’ve had the advantage to learn first hand from
men and women who have graciously allowed me to share their stories
with you. What works and what doesn’t work? Well, you are
about to find out!
First, permit
me to contribute what I have learned and what I now know to be true.
Some men are wonderful guys and can be everything you ever hoped
for in the opposite sex. And, then, some men simply behave like
“wild dogs.” Why is that? How did they get to be that
way? WE (as women) have to take some responsibility for their behavior.
Sad, but true. I am not suggesting that we are responsible for their
behavior altogether, but we do enable it by our own behavior. Now,
read that again, because this is what this book is all about —
how we enable the men in our lives — in good ways and in
bad ways.
As you read
through this self-help book, I will admit that even the best of
relationships can be difficult to manage. Outside stimuli have a
tendency to complicate our relationships. When that happens, we
are left hanging without the tools we need to fix them. Then, to
add fuel to the fire, there is often nowhere to turn.
What I am about
to share with you is my gift to you. I want you to feel confident
and mindful of the joy that can be yours through meaningful relationships
with others, because I have been there!
I have had those
awful nights of not being able to sleep because my heart ached,
then waking up the next day with puffy eyes because of last night’s
tears. Ladies, this pain is completely avoidable and absolutely
unnecessary. It’s true! I’m talking about avoiding the
deep pain of regret and not respecting yourself or realizing that
you had control over a situation and you didn’t use it.
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